About the book

THE DAY IS FINALLY COMING when your baby bird will fly away from the family nest. But is he or she ready? Are you? There are thousands of handbooks on raising infants, toddlers, and adolescents, but no proper manual for preparing your social media–obsessed teen for life in the real world…until now.

In this witty, irreverent, refreshingly honest guide, Kathleen Davis offers invaluable, commonsense advice to help you help your kid become a successful—or at least functional—adult. She covers the big and small stuff, from doing laundry to paying bills to building character and showing empathy for others. And she doesn’t shy away from tough topics like drinking, drugs, and sex.

YOU NEVER TOLD ME THAT! Whether your kids are off to college, their first apartments, or new jobs, it’s time to get them ready for real life.

Releases June 12 on Amazon!



KATHLEEN DAVIS is a writer, painter, and Realtor who is currently raising her two teenage sons, Henry and George, in Whitefish Bay, Wisconsin. She studied design at the Savannah College of Art and Design and earned her bachelor of fine arts from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee.

In her spare time, she has spent several years volunteering as a coach and mentoring middle and high school students. She is passionate about the importance of education and worked with the school district of Whitefish Bay to develop its anti-bullying program so that all kids could come to school and feel safe.

Kathleen tells it like it is — messy, hilarious, and full of love — and this is a must-read for any parent about to send a child out into the world.
— Jeremy Brown | Author
The title of this book evokes the typical response of a child to his or parent, “You never told me that!” But the cool thing about this book is that the title works for parents too.

As I read through this book, I saw so many great ideas for raising our kids to be independent that made me wonder why no one had ever told me about them before!
— Amy Schwabe | Metroparent Editor

Kathleen Davis Blog

It’s graduation time! As excited as everyone is right now about the journey our kids are about to embark on it’s only natural that some fears linger in our minds. I reached out to ask parents what some of their fears were. Here is what I heard. 


"The lessons within these pages, so beautifully colored with a parent's compassion, extend beyond the transition from the home to independent living. This is a compass for parenting, as much as it is a guide to raising a child with enough character to carry in their backpacks wherever they go in life."

- Jeff Wenzler, M.Ed
Award-winning author of "The Pivotal Life: A Compass for Discovering Purpose, Passion & Perspective"
Founding director of Pivotal Directions, a servant leadership organization for teens
Executive Producer of "10 Dollar Perspective" a documentary film selection in the Sarasota Film Festival



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